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Difficult Clients 101: What to Say, What to Avoid, and How to Set Boundaries Early

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Manny Griffiths
June 4, 2025
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Difficult Clients 101: What to Say, What to Avoid, and How to Set Boundaries Early

Every attorney encounters difficult clients. Managing these relationships effectively not only reduces stress but can also prevent misunderstandings and improve overall client satisfaction. Here’s your guide on handling challenging client interactions.

What to Say

  • Empathize and Validate: Acknowledge your client’s frustrations. Use phrases like, "I understand why this is frustrating," or "I see this is important to you."
  • Clarify Expectations Early: Clearly communicate your working process, timelines, and boundaries at the start of your relationship.
  • Maintain Professionalism: Keep interactions courteous, respectful, and solution-oriented.

What to Avoid

  • Overpromising: Don't set unrealistic expectations; it's always better to under-promise and over-deliver.
  • Defensive Communication: Avoid reacting defensively; instead, listen actively and address concerns calmly and objectively.
  • Personal Engagement: Keep interactions professional and avoid becoming emotionally involved in disputes or confrontations.

How to Set Boundaries Early

  • Clear Communication: Outline your availability, response times, and preferred communication channels from the beginning.
  • Written Agreements: Use engagement letters and retainers that clearly define your services, scope of work, billing practices, and mutual expectations.
  • Regular Updates: Provide consistent updates through structured systems like client portals to manage expectations and reduce anxiety.

Example Phrases for Difficult Conversations

  • For unrealistic demands: “I appreciate your urgency, but here is what is realistically achievable within our agreed timeframe.”
  • For persistent dissatisfaction: “Let's revisit your goals and expectations to ensure we are aligned and moving forward effectively.”

Effectively managing difficult client interactions requires clear communication, professional boundaries, and emotional intelligence. By setting expectations early and maintaining professional communication throughout the relationship, you can significantly reduce misunderstandings and improve client relationships.